Whether you agree with the MGTOW or not, and wherever you fall on the gender triary of our species, (male, female, or Janet Napolitano) there is one thing that everyone today agrees on.
We ALL know the game is changing. Or – at the very least – to quote Slim Charles from The Wire,“Game’s the same. Just got more fierce.”
Those dating today are dating differently than their parents did; who dated differently than their parents did; and you do NOT want to know what your great grandmother would have thought about what you did last night. Men are going their own way; women are writing the most-read article in the history of Atlantic Monthly about their singlehood. Together we are undergoing a massive, society-wide experiment with relationships and sex that we can’t know the outcome of. We are all trying to figure this out on the fly.
The Rise of the WGTOW
Let’s take a look at an online network that sprung up a few years ago calling themselves the “quirkyalones.” I think the label is technically open to anyone who wants it, but the movement is clearly mainly made up of educated, urbanite women in their 30’s-40’s. quirkyalones (lowercase – so quirky!) say they aren’t happy with their options with the opposite sex and refuse to “settle.” So they’re staying out of relationships and staying proud of it.
But what was the public reaction?
The manifesto was published by Harper Collins, positively reviewed in the NY Times, blurbed by Anderson Cooper. The founder got paraded across mainstream TV stations to universal acclaim. And “this is how we live now” think-pieces in the Major Organs generally agreed that yes, these are such independent and brave women to flout social convention! They have an important take on the sexual revolution we should all learn from.
Good luck finding a single mention of the MGTOW in the media; let alone a positive one.
In this we see that the fatalism apparent in some of the MGTOW’s founding documents and the strategies they’ve chosen to spread their message was not misplaced. Not only won’t they get a fair hearing – they won’t get a hearing at all.
And if that’s the case…
Why put yourself out there?
Why risk personal repercussions for zero gain?
Why not just drop out of the game entirely?
To close with one more Wire quote, at Lt. Daniels put it – you can’t lose if you don’t play.